Playing hard to get is Foolish

So (as with many of my recent posts) this is inspired by countless conversations with the lovely miss Sara P.

Why do we play hard to get?

Take a moment (or preferably longer) to think about your answer to that question.

Surely if you like someone, even slightly, you would want them to know that. Surely?

You would act in such a way as to make it clear that you feel that way.

We are not children playing in a sand pit on some playground somewhere where we are unable to express ourselves clearly enough and so we end up kicking the girl we love – or your innocent understanding of it at least- in the shin. Or push her straight into the sand pit.

We are fortunate enough to have collected enough information & experiences to get our emotional awareness to a level mature enough to be able to express, clearly, how we feel.

So why then do we deliberately not reply to that text requesting a meeting of some sort? When we know we would love to.

Why then do we not offer to take that someone for a drink or better yet; dinner? When we are dying to extend that offer.

Why then do we not tell that someone that they are beautiful, when we think that they look that way? Nobody would reject such flattery, especially if genuinely heartfelt.

Why settle for second best when we can get first prize? Because we can. It is an option.

There comes a time when every boy must throw out the sand pit and start building a foundation for something more worthy of their time, potential to love and pro-create.

Not necessarily with the intention solely to produce offspring. It’s not for everyone. Granted. But that closeness for a person you feel so strongly for is desirable at some point. Even if only for a season. Indefinitely. Or definitely. Whichever.

Playing hard to get plays into the fakeness that the world has come to accept. It’s not acceptable.

It’s a chip that aids the ever-evident decay of the soul and humanity as a whole.

Playing hard to get is seriously over-rated and ; I’m confident to say; foolish.

Simply foolish.

Why do we so inherently feel the need to have what we can’t get? Or relish that position of being what others (although you feel for them) can not obtain.

What is so attractive about that person who won’t return your calls? There is one out there who would gladly embrace them.

There remain many unanswered questions, but for me, right now: Playing hard to get is not an option. It does cross my mind ever so often but each time I think of the missed connections endured in our time on this journey. It’s simply not worth it.

Plain and simple.

I Didintle Sholohelang Ntsie, vow to be as truthful as I can be about my feelings towards others when those feelings are beautiful & true.

So what if I get rejected? Rejection is an undeniable & unavoidable part of life. Playing hard to get makes it even more complex than it really needs to be.

You, and you alone, know what and who you want.

Don’t deny yourself that sweetness.